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How many married people do you know? Probably a lot…right? How many of those are Happily Married? How many are just married because they are comfortable and don’t want to start over? How many are married because they have kids together? How many are married because it’s convenient and they are living double lives? How many are giving it another try every other week?

Unfortunately those are all realistic scenarios. People have started marrying younger and younger. Even though it’s great and they are no longer living in sin(shacking up)(sex out of wedlock). Most of these marriages are not built on a solid foundation. Let’s hope the following list doesn’t apply to your marriage and if it does and it’s not too late start WORKING on it. By working I mean start getting to the bottom of the issues, sort them out and fix them from the core. I don’t mean brush them under the rug and try to move forward and pretend everything is good.

1. You two argue about finances a few times a month.

2. One of you doesn’t trust the other other one.

3. Your goals, morals, and values don’t match up.

4. There is constant tension.

5. You argue about problems and concerns but never fix them. You both walk away with anger and no change.

6. One or both of you have been unfaithful.

7. You seek help outside of your marriage. (This doesn’t apply to professional help.)

8. Disrespect.

9. Putting others and other things before your spouse.

10. You are emotionally out of it. You have checked out and just living life as 2 separate people in one marriage.

I am one to believe that no 1 problem should be argued about more than once. One and done. Arguing can be very healthy when the outcome is to fix and work on whatever the issue is. I also believe there is a line you draw with certain issues. Cheating? One and done. Trust is one of the hardest things to work on, to gain, and to keep. The point is almost everything is fixable if the commitment, work, and desire is the same from both parties. If only one is fighting and the other one is going with the flow… You might as well file those papers.

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1. How do you take care of yourself & how do you stay balanced?

I take care of myself through maintaining a healthy diet, getting enough sleep and making sure I pamper myself (when I can find time lol).

2. Where do you find your inspiration?

I find my inspiration through strong women. I am inspired by woman such as my Mum, Lisa Nicoles, Jackie Hill Perry and Priscilla Shirer. These women make it their mission to empower other women and I highly respect that as I don’t think there is enough of that anymore.

3. How did you start blogging/vlogging/makeup/photography etc?

I started vlogging because I am really interested in the concept of being able to impact people through having an online platform such as YouTube. Also many friends and family kept encouraging me to start as they wanted me to share my hair and beauty secrets.

4. What are some ways we can help each other (women to women)?

A way that we can help one another as women are through compliments. It’s sounds so simple yet it is so effective. Complimenting each other is something we don’t do enough of. Just by giving someone a compliment it could really change their day in a positive way. We have no idea what that person could be going through.

5. What advice would you give a woman starting out in your field?

I’m a full time student and part time YouTuber along side having other small ventures on the side. I’m still quite new to YouTube, (6 months in) and I have found that consistency is key. Just be consistent and passionate about what you do and it will be easy haha! Just be yourself also and you will enjoy it, you will enjoy staying up late at night to film videos because your passionate!

6. How do you juggle your SO/kids/friends/work/yourself?

I’ve recently been engaged, still have over a year left of university, starting my own business etc on the side so I would say I’m slowly finding the balance. If something is important to you, you will make it a priority. I’m someone who likes to be organised so planners are useful to me, they help me remember plans that I have made for the week and keep me on track. When I say I’m dedicating my time to something I make sure I stick to that commitment.

7. Anything you’d like to speak on or share?

Yes! I hope anyone reading this has been encouraged or motivated

8.Please share your blog and your services.

YouTube – Vernita I Peters youtube.com/vernitaipeters

Facebook – @vernitaipeters

Instagram – @v_ivelina

Snapchat – @vivelina1

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Marriage is a serious thing. Very Serious. I don’t believe people should just get married thinking it will all be fun and games. I do believe that in every good and strong marriage there are plenty of fun times. You’ve got to remember to laugh. Life is serious and not easy. It’s easy to lose the good times when the hard times come knocking.

My husband and I have a lot of little inside jokes. We still play around at home even though his panties are always in a bunch(inside joke). Some times he’ll walk by and scratch my butt and say “My butt’s itchy”. There were a few times where when he was in the shower I threw something(flour) at him and he threw something at me. If i remember correctly he threw ice water on me. I love to mock him and be sarcastic and that’s usually where he gets his panties in a bunch. Oh! Don’t forget to do a happy dance when eating something good together. Of course there are other inside jokes…which maybe a little inappropriate to share.

Stay Classy Folks…lol

Share some of your inside jokes in the comments!!

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Starting 2017 my husband and I decided to grow up as far as our spending goes. We never say no to our wants or needs. Our kids have more than they could ever want or need and it’s been a blessing to be able to live in such a way. Now, we were blowing money on food and not paying attention to it. When we finally took the time to reflect on our spending habits we decided to pull back and become a bit more responsible. We can put that excessive spending elsewhere.

We have not gone out to dinner since the New Year started and have only ordered 2 times. So, I decided to try and make a fancy, shmancy dinner that we would have ordered if we had gone out to dinner. I had most of the ingredients at home so I didn’t have to go out and spend extra money.

I made Avocado, crab, and tomato stack for an appetizer.

Steak over mashed potatoes and asparagus for him.

Steak over mashed potatoes and asparagus covered with onions and mushrooms for me.

Avocado, crab & tomatoes stack.

His – Steak over Mashed

Hers – Steak over mashed with Mushrooms and Onions

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