• millymill | November 21, 2017

    Married to Medicine: Jackie & Curtis

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    Together 17 years and married for 15. Sounds like there’s a pretty solid foundation in a marriage that has lasted 15 years, right? It probably is but just like in a house if there’s an issue and you continue to ignore it eventually it can come crumbling down. The property will lose it’s value, regardless of the foundation. Jackie has been through a lot breast cancer, not being able to have children and now this. All her friends believe she didn’t deserve it because of what she’s been through in life. To be honest, those trials and tribulations have nothing to do with what is going on in her marriage now.

    Now, I do not believe anyone gets married and thinks “I am going to cheat” or “I am going to get cheated on”. I also think many men/women believe that the longer you are married the less likely you are to be cheated on. FALSE! I believe the longer you are married the harder it is to keep a solid, happy, and valuable marriage. Why? New things are always exciting, new experiences, new homes, cars, kids, etc. Well, after so many years it turns into work. You have to make time for one another, you have to continue to love and show effort. You have got to keep on gluing and building. It doesn’t stop. Ever!

    Curtis has voiced his want/needs and concerns to Jackie on several occasions. He also has supported her in everything she’s ever gone through. A big part of it is he is at an age where he is ready to enjoy the benefits of their hard work. Enjoying life alone is not fun or exciting, especially when you are married and should be doing so with your SO. Two seasons ago his wants were aired when they were looking for a new home to buy. That means for 2+ years he has been asking, begging and waiting for her to make time for him. Last season it was clear that she was only becoming busier. Just stating the known…

    Was cheating a solution? I am sure for Curtis cheating was a temporary fix, maybe until Jackie decided to lay some work off. It certainly was not a solution though! I believe he could have asked Jackie for a divorce/separation until things were where they needed them to be in their marriage. Never do I  think that cheating is okay or acceptable. I do understand WHY he felt the need to cheat and did cheat. He’s been a good husband to Jackie and was not asking much. Jackie was wrong from the gate if you ask me. I understand that her job is her baby but even babies come 2nd to a husband. At a certain age you really have to slow down and enjoy life as well as one another. When your husband pretty much begs you for your time and tells you he needs it, your marriage needs it, you need to give that time to him. By no means am I saying she should have quit her job but she should have definitely went over her list of priorities.

    The problem many relationships face is lack of communication, lack of understanding one another, lack of addressing the issues and really fixing them. Many times couples(married or not) will argue and voice their issues with one another and never work on a game plan to fix the issues. It gets brushed under the rug until the next argument. Never ending cycle. Eventually someone gets fed up and well, this happens.

    Outside looking in it is really easy to feel bad for the women in such situations. I don’t believe any 100% happy man or woman will cheat on their SO. If they do 9 times out of 10 something in their marriage was off.

    What is your view on the situation? Who was wrong in your eyes and can they fix it? Comment below and let me know!! Let’s discuss.

    For the actual

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  • millymill | November 19, 2017

    Panda Face Mask

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    FINALLY got some time to not only blog but to take time and apply a face mask. Yes, everyday is packed with MUST-DOS when you have 3 little ones. I sort of just throw myself on the back burner or go to sleep when I can. Anyways!

    I bought this mask a few months ago at 5 Below just to see what it was about. It’s called ANIMAL PANDA face mask by Spatherapy I never really read what they are supposed to do until I get home and get ready to apply it. Therefore it should be clear that I just wanted to look like a panda and scare the kids. LOL. JK. It worked out perfectly though because after having the baby my face became super dry and normally I am very oily. To my luck this mask is infused with bamboo extract to renew and quench your skin and keep it moisturized. There are 4 in the box.

    Once I got out of the shower and dried my face I applied the mask on. A lot of mask tend to tighten up on your face or sometimes even burn but not this one. I felt a little tightening but not like I couldn’t move my face. I kept it on for 20 minutes while doing some cleaning around the house. It was easy to take off and best part about it no crumblings all over my sink counter. Only thing I didn’t love is it was super soaked in the extract. When I first applied it it was dripping all over the place until I sort of squeezed some of it out.

    My skin definitely feels a bit more hydrated, especially around my mouth and chin area. I did not apply any moisturizer after and didn’t wash my face. I wet a piece of paper towel and slowly removed whatever extract was left on my face. I plan on using this mask for the next 3 weeks to see if it really works and will bring the moisture back to my face.

    Comment below some of your favorite masks and why.

    Also if you want to see more posts like this feel free to let me know.

    Smooches.

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  • millymill | February 18, 2017

    Signs your Marriage could be Doomed

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    How many married people do you know? Probably a lot…right? How many of those are Happily Married? How many are just married because they are comfortable and don’t want to start over? How many are married because they have kids together? How many are married because it’s convenient and they are living double lives? How many are giving it another try every other week?

    Unfortunately those are all realistic scenarios. People have started marrying younger and younger. Even though it’s great and they are no longer living in sin(shacking up)(sex out of wedlock). Most of these marriages are not built on a solid foundation. Let’s hope the following list doesn’t apply to your marriage and if it does and it’s not too late start WORKING on it. By working I mean start getting to the bottom of the issues, sort them out and fix them from the core. I don’t mean brush them under the rug and try to move forward and pretend everything is good.

    1. You two argue about finances a few times a month.

    2. One of you doesn’t trust the other other one.

    3. Your goals, morals, and values don’t match up.

    4. There is constant tension.

    5. You argue about problems and concerns but never fix them. You both walk away with anger and no change.

    6. One or both of you have been unfaithful.

    7. You seek help outside of your marriage. (This doesn’t apply to professional help.)

    8. Disrespect.

    9. Putting others and other things before your spouse.

    10. You are emotionally out of it. You have checked out and just living life as 2 separate people in one marriage.

    I am one to believe that no 1 problem should be argued about more than once. One and done. Arguing can be very healthy when the outcome is to fix and work on whatever the issue is. I also believe there is a line you draw with certain issues. Cheating? One and done. Trust is one of the hardest things to work on, to gain, and to keep. The point is almost everything is fixable if the commitment, work, and desire is the same from both parties. If only one is fighting and the other one is going with the flow… You might as well file those papers.

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  • millymill | February 14, 2017

    Empower Her Tuesday featuring Vernita I Peters

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    1. How do you take care of yourself & how do you stay balanced?

    I take care of myself through maintaining a healthy diet, getting enough sleep and making sure I pamper myself (when I can find time lol).

    2. Where do you find your inspiration?

    I find my inspiration through strong women. I am inspired by woman such as my Mum, Lisa Nicoles, Jackie Hill Perry and Priscilla Shirer. These women make it their mission to empower other women and I highly respect that as I don’t think there is enough of that anymore.

    3. How did you start blogging/vlogging/makeup/photography etc?

    I started vlogging because I am really interested in the concept of being able to impact people through having an online platform such as YouTube. Also many friends and family kept encouraging me to start as they wanted me to share my hair and beauty secrets.

    4. What are some ways we can help each other (women to women)?

    A way that we can help one another as women are through compliments. It’s sounds so simple yet it is so effective. Complimenting each other is something we don’t do enough of. Just by giving someone a compliment it could really change their day in a positive way. We have no idea what that person could be going through.

    5. What advice would you give a woman starting out in your field?

    I’m a full time student and part time YouTuber along side having other small ventures on the side. I’m still quite new to YouTube, (6 months in) and I have found that consistency is key. Just be consistent and passionate about what you do and it will be easy haha! Just be yourself also and you will enjoy it, you will enjoy staying up late at night to film videos because your passionate!

    6. How do you juggle your SO/kids/friends/work/yourself?

    I’ve recently been engaged, still have over a year left of university, starting my own business etc on the side so I would say I’m slowly finding the balance. If something is important to you, you will make it a priority. I’m someone who likes to be organised so planners are useful to me, they help me remember plans that I have made for the week and keep me on track. When I say I’m dedicating my time to something I make sure I stick to that commitment.

    7. Anything you’d like to speak on or share?

    Yes! I hope anyone reading this has been encouraged or motivated 🙂

    8.Please share your blog and your services.

    YouTube – Vernita I Peters youtube.com/vernitaipeters

    Facebook – @vernitaipeters

    Instagram – @v_ivelina

    Snapchat – @vivelina1

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