10 Tips to Surviving your first year as a Mother

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 Everyday I look at my first born and realize how quickly they grow out of the baby stage. Yet it seemed like it was never ending when first experiencing it.

1.Accept that you will not be getting any sleep for the first 3 months(at least).

This is probably the biggest issue many moms deal with. Being sleepy and tired is just a part of          being a mom. Until I accepted this with each one of my kids I was so miserable waking up for each feeding and cry. Once I accepted it I was much more patient and ok with waking up every 3 hours. It’s so normal now.

2.  Stay Off of Amazon during late night feedings.

I can’t tell you how many times I would order things in the middle of the night. Usually baby things, things that I thought would help my kid/s sleep better(sometimes educational toys, books, etc). A lot of times I wouldn’t even remember that I ordered something until it came. So save your $$$ and stay away from Amazon at night.

3.  Don’t expect everything to happen by the book.

My first born did everything by the book. She slept through the night at 2 months, was rolling over at 3 months, sitting up at 6 months and got her 1st tooth, etc. Once my 2nd daughter was born I expected the same thing to happen. I was so wrong and only stressed myself out. She started eating solids way later than 6 months. Her teeth didn’t start coming in until she was about 8 months. She was barely crawling at 9.5 months and finally started walking at 14 months. Now, she can barely stay still! Every baby is different and do things on their own time.

4.  Stay away from Google.

Don’t google! It’s so hard to stay away but it will save you so much stress. Google seems to give the most severe cases and sends you into a panic. If you’re concerned about something just take your kid to the doctors. 90% of the time you will realize your child has no issues. I remember when my daughter woke up with a lazy eye and I started googling and researching things. I thought she had a tumor(God forbid) because that’s what google was saying. I took her to the doctors and there was absolutely nothing wrong with her. She was just tired and didn’t get enough sleep.

5.  Accept Help.

If people(close friends and family) are volunteering to help you, accept it! I still struggle with accepting help but when I do it’s such a relief. Accept meals, accept for someone to come sit with the baby while you shower or even take sometime to enjoy a hot meal. You don’t have to leave your child to accept help. I only say that because I know a lot of first time moms don’t want to leave their baby with anyone because they feel guilty. I know I did.

6.  Breastfeed or Don’t.

Don’t kill yourself trying to breastfeed because that’s what everyone is telling you to do. To some it comes very natural and easy and to some it’s complete hell. Whatever you choose make sure you’re happy and stress free. Millions of kids are not breastfed and turn out just fine. Don’t feel bad if you can’t. If you can then great! I breastfed all of mine because I always had a lot of milk so I felt bad wasting it and not giving it to them. Also there are a lot of advantages, so for me it just worked.

7.  Learn your Babies Cries.

Your child does not have to be fed every time they cry. Sometimes they will cry because they are hungry. Sometimes they will cry because they are wet. Other times they will cry because they just don’t want to be left alone laying there. They will also cry if they are too tired and you aren’t leaving them alone. This will come with time and experience.

8.  Take lots of Photos and Videos.

Time flies by so fast once you have a kid. It’s scary how quickly they grow up. I love looking back at pictures and comparing my kids. Who was chunkier, who was taller, but my favorite is recreating pictures with each one. I have 1000s of photos of each kid.

9.  Do not listen to anyone! ONLY your heart and gut.

Everyone and their mama will be telling you what to do and how to do it. Put your foot down from day one and let people know advice is not needed unless asked for it. Mommy knows best!! Don’t let anyone control or manipulate you because it’s your first time.

10.  This will pass.

There are so many phases that kids go through. So many! Some are stressful, some are exhausting, some are exciting. The ones I am referring to are the exhausting ones. Every stage lasts just long enough for your patience to not run out. I always give myself small talks about sucking it up and trying to enjoy them because before we know it they will be teens who want nothing to do with us.

Bonus Survival tip for you and the baby.

Hug and kiss even on the bad days. Always tell them no matter what is happening you love them and are there for them.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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