Love & Relationship

  • millymill | January 7, 2015

    Marry for Money or Marry for Love?


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    Lately this has been coming up a lot. Now every time i get into a deep conversation or debate I have got to bring the tea this way. Now let’s see!

    Genesis 2:24
    Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

    Proverbs 18:22

    He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

    Hebrews 13:4

    Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

    Ephesians 5:25-33

    Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,

    Marriage is about love, support, friendship, & building a family, a life together, and being a team. (My Personal definition)

    When a woman & a man get married they have a vision. The couple begins to build a life together to reach that vision. Is it a straight road? Absolutely not! These 2 people come from 2 different families, 2 different lives, 2 different personalities. With time these two individuals become one, one vision, one life, one path to walk on. They turn into a team who begin to build a family, and during the hard times only love will hold them tight and together. When a marriage’s foundation is love, respect, loyalty, and honesty there is no storm they can’t get through. The foundation is made of brick and can not be broken.

    Now, don’t get me wrong, there is a part of marriage that is a partnership. The business end of a marriage. This could mean a few things, husband works, wife stays home and raises kids, cooks, cleans, etc. It could mean both work and focus on a goal together, and pay for a sitter, and someone to care for home. Also could mean one goes to school while the other works and takes care of everything and then they switch. Anyways this is just a small percentage of what marriage is. No two relationships are the same and more times than not no two people are the same.

    Money, money, money. Some will say money makes the world go round. Well, money definitely makes life easier but it doesn’t make it worth living! As a female I love shoes, bags, clothes, diamonds, and the list goes on and of’course if I had the money I would buy these things and be happy with them. That wouldn’t make my life “happy”, “worthy”, or “good”. Ever heard of the saying “More money, more problems.”? That saying is very true. When people have money it makes them act different, as if they are better than others, it becomes a big show starter. Sometimes people with money lose all sight of what life is really about. That brings me to marrying for money.

    Money can be a huge deal breaker for some men/women. “You have money? Ok, I’ll marry you!” The beginning of that marriage is always great. Traveling together, shopping, going out, etc. As time goes on the one with the money starts to use it to his/her advantage. Control usually kicks in and things start to come back to reality little by little. The one who married FOR money begins to actually obey the rules and accepts being controlled because they have gotten so comfortable with a lavish lifestyle they can’t imagine being alone and with out the money. Soon the one with money loses interest because there is no attraction, love, chemistry, sexual attraction, there is nothing there so they move on to the next. There is no foundation! You can not build a foundation with clothes, bags, diamonds, vacations, or anything else materialistic. Once all of those items get old reality will set in. When you are old and weak your bags, clothes, and vacations wont be there to care for you. It will all be a memory…or not because by then people understand that they don’t have that special person to build a life with, they don’t have the love of their life laying next to them, they have nothing left!

    When I die I won’t be able to take anything with me but my feelings and my knowledge. I want to know I lived, I loved, and was loved!


    Money can not and will never buy happiness. Not Permanent Happiness at least! Money is a drug, it is a temporary fix. Marry for Love or don’t marry at all.



  • millymill | January 4, 2015

    Our Date Night


    Once in a while we just up and plan a date. My brother got Curtis a gift card to a nice restaurant for his Birthday, so yesterday we decided it was time for a date night. We got our sitter over to our place and headed out.

    The food was pretty good! I just hate driving far. Grrr… Anyways, it was worth it!

    I had the calamari with peppers & Curt had the crab cake. It was pretty good! Also they were pretty quick with the appetizers & food.


    10893547_10152487662001493_423462090_n Crab cake


    Cranberry Juice – My Favorite


    Steak & Lobster


    You can see City Hall right out the window.

    If you ask me date nights are important! It sort of lets you escape the real world for a few hours. Also it’s pretty exciting to get all dolled up and go out with your other half. It gets a little complicated when you live together because you are together all the time and feel like “Why go out?” Those few hours are very important and you want to still enjoy one another, look nice for one another, appreciate the time together. Life gets so crazy and busy that it’s very easy to put things like this to the side. Make it a priority to at least get out together once a month. <3


    Loved my makeup today!!

  • millymill | January 2, 2015

    A Woman.


    b08a5d38d1a57b977525dffbd97cd7cbA woman is a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, etc. I fall under all that are listed. My definition maybe different than yours but let’s see.

    You often hear women say “What does he have to offer?”, “What can he do for me?”, etc. My question is are women not always fighting to be equal? Why does he have to offer you something? What does he have to do for you? Why not ask “What can we accomplish TOGETHER?”, “What can we do for one another?” Many women tend to forget to look in the mirror. Just being born a woman you have lots of responsibilities!

    As a wife you can be stay at home mom, you can be a working mom, or just a wife, you will ALWAYS have more on your plate than your husband, ALWAYS. No matter how 50/50 your relationship is. Women like things done their way there fore it’s easier to do some things yourself than wait on your husband to do them or to help you with them. How about multitasking? Women are able to clean while they cook, study while the baby plays, or check e-mails while breastfeeding.

    As a wife and mother and daughter I can tell you in a regular day I do more than I ever thought I could handle & definitley more than my husband. In my first hour up I shower, let the dog out, pump, get ready for work, change and feed the baby & sometimes I even have time to make a smoothie(Rarely). Then I head to work from 9-5, get home at 5:20 clean/cook until the baby is up around 6:30-7pm feed her, play with her, put her down to sleep, finish cleaning, have dinner and head to bed. This is usually Mon-Friday and forget the weekends because they come and go and I don’t even notice. Between all of this I am still able to squeeze most family members in on the phone, pay bills, and make calls for my aunts/parents/grandmom. Now, of’course my husband helps with laundry, cleaning and watching the baby while I do some grocery shopping or try to get cleaning done on the weekends but again it’s not nearly as much as I have on my plate. Which is Okay, because he works harder and has no problem helping when is asked too.

    A woman’s job is to take care, of everything & everyone. Cook. Clean. Work. Raise Children. Care for her husband. etc. Reason being is she is able to handle all the work. Your husband will be happy to go out and bust his butt for your family if he is able to come home to a clean house, cooked dinner, and disciplined children. No man wants to go out and break his back at work then come home and do the same thing. More times than not the man has the harder job out of the two, physically harder I should say. A man looks for a helpmate not a burden. No man wants a woman that has nothing to offer just as no woman wants a man that has nothing to offer. If a man is taking care of you financially, cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids I can tell you now he doesn’t need you and eventually he will find a replacement. What good is a husband/wife that comes with nothing and does nothing? Marriage/relationships are team efforts, no matter how you view it, it is a partnership. How does the saying go?

    “Let the wife make her husband glad to come home and let him make her sorry to see him leave.”

    Martin Luther

    Ladies you have a lot to offer IF you use your skills, power, and strength right. Take care of yourself, mentally & physically. A man wants to look at a well taken care woman, dress up when you can, get your nails done, get cute!! Don’t need him but want him & let it be known! Know yourself!


  • millymill | December 14, 2014

    Husband and Wife

    Watching Kendra & Hank’s interview I can’t help but notice that Kendra is the one to blame for their marital issues. First and foremost it is very clear that there was no real communication there. From outside looking in it looks like their marriage has been moving along just because they were used to being married and were just comfortable where they were with one another. There was no passion, no communication, no excitement, just things brushed under the rug to stay whole.

    Second of all Kendra gave him no room to breathe! There was no room for Hank to speak his mind and if he did he was automatically shut down. She made him question himself! When he was at his worst instead of motivating him, pushing him, supporting him she questioned him, belittled him and just wasn’t what a wife should be. Kendra seems like the type of woman that gets married and then uses the “marriage” against her husband. By use it against him I mean she has gotten so comfortable in their marriage that she never thought that the problems were real, marriage is more than just an agreement, and she believed that “Well we are married nothing can come in between us.”

    What exactly is marriage? Friends, husband, wife, family, life, enjoying life TOGETHER, being yourself, happiness, love, joy, having the same plans, goals, visions and living as one. In marriage you support one another no matter what. You have to allow each other to be yourselves. In a marriage it’s very important to not lose your identity because your spouse fell in love with that identity at one point. Women tend to find a man they like and try to mold him into this other man they have always wanted. Well that’s what happened with Kendra and Hank. When he was let go from the NFL he lost himself and instead of being understanding and supportive Kendra tried to mold him into a manly man to match her vision. It got to a point where he was afraid to speak his mind, bring ideas to her, or even be honest with her. She pushed him away!

    In a marriage we have to allow one another to be who they are. One thing I believe is you can not and should not try to hold your other half from doing what they enjoy and you should not force them to do anything they don’t want to or enjoy. If you do then eventually they will resent you and things will not be so good. Speak your mind but in the right way! Be careful with your words, express your love, and be careful with the way you play with one another. Don’t try to control one another just understand. HAVE EACHOTHER’S BACK! Marriage is a team and it should never be husband vs. wife or the other way around. It’s the team against the world!

    Love One Another! Remember why you got married! Enjoy life TOGETHER!