Spoon Full of Ava

  • spoonfullofava | August 5, 2014

    Four Month Growth Spurt

    Sleeping Beauty who has been sleeping from 8:30PM – 8:30AM is now waking up at 3AM for a late night snack. Completely unexpected! Day naps have turned into nightmares and girlfriend is eating 6oz each feeding. I am happy about the 6oz but not so pleased with the morning naps that have completely turned around for us and the waking up at night.

    Just when I thought we were on a good schedule…she turned 4 months. Other than the sleeping less and eating more she is a very happy baby. From what i understand a four months old baby brain can not handle all the new discoveries. When your baby is 4 months more than likely they can turn over on their own, hold on to things/toys, be aware of their surroundings, etc. All these things are new to them and it takes time for everything to be normal, therefore their brain is working overtime and makes it harder for them to fall asleep. Also,the new feeding at night is usually needed because that calms them down, fills them up and puts them to sleep. As adults when we wake up in the middle of the night we look at the time/our phones and go back to sleep. Babies are not able to fall back asleep so quickly at this stage because they wake up and automatically start looking around.

    My advice is… Baby them!!! It is okay to rock them to sleep during this growth spurt. They need their rest more than anything, and so do you! Their schedule will be completely screwed up and that is okay. If you stress their schedule that is exactly what it will into, STRESS. Just go with the flow for now and do what your baby is asking of you.

    How long will this growth spurt last? Well, for us it seems like we have overcome it and it has only been a week and a half. From researching I found out it could last as long as 2 months. Don’t forget, all of our munchkins are different and have different wants/needs. Just go with the flow!

    Good Luck!

    Ava’s Mama <3

  • spoonfullofava | July 13, 2014

    Ava 3.5 Months

    Every single day S H E is a new person. She looks different every morning! There are so many new things she has been doing, I can barely keep up! So, now she turns to her side, hits the toys on her rocker, and holds toys in her hands. My favorite new thing is her laugh/giggle! It is the most beautiful sound ever. Also before bed when i am changing her she gets so excited and becomes this little ball of energy. Kicks, laughs, screams and just makes my night complete.

    The days have become so busy that sometimes I have no time to pee. I work fro 9-5 come home and hang out with my Sugar Baby until 8:30pm, change her, wash her, feed her, and bed time. Once all that is done, I get to cleaning, homework, shower, and sometimes eat when there is time. As busy as I get and as tired as i am at the end of each day I wouldn’t change any of this! I love our baby girl, i love every second i am able to spend with her!

  • spoonfullofava | July 1, 2014

    My First Letter to Her.

    Well hello grasshopper! You haven’t come into this crazy world but you are living inside of me and are being perfected for your grand entrance. Lets see you have about 18 weeks left before the eviction…Yep! No diva moves! Please be on time…Don’t be like your mama. You are kicking and swimming away as i am writing this.

    Lets get to the important stuff! There are a lot of people awaiting your arrival. 5 grandparents, 6 great grand parents, a bunch of aunts, uncles, cousins and of’course Mama & Daddy! You were so cute last time we saw you, blowing bubbles and moving all over the place.

    Your daddy and i are super duper excited to meet you, spoil you, raise you, and give you the world. We will do everything in our power to raise you to be a classy, smart, loving lady. We will spoil you as much as we can but you better believe you will know the value of everything and how nothing comes easy. We will support you and push you to reach the stars, the sun, the moon, and so much more.

    I decided to start this blog to share with you one day…My hopes, my dreams, and my love for you.

  • spoonfullofava | July 1, 2014

    25 RULES FOR MOTHERS OF DAUGHTER

    (A friend of mine shared this with me on Facebook…So cute and i will most def keep all of this in mind while raising my princess)

    1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that living and having fun is most important.

    2. Let her put on your makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself.

    3. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet mr. right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.

    4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.

    5. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.

    6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children. Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.

    7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.

    8. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.

    9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors. Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

    10. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love yous” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.

    11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

    12. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.

    13. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.

    14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.

    15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming.

    16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.

    17. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.

    18. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible. Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy’s feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants. Or karaoke to Tom Petty in the living room if she would rather. Introduce her to the classics- like The Beatles- and listen to her latest favorite- like Taylor Swift. Share the magic of music together, it will bring you closer- or at least create a soundtrack to your life together.

    19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.

    20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.

    21. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Whether she has classmates who tease her because of her glasses, or a boyfriend who tells her she is too fat – let her know she does not have to listen. Make sure she knows how to demand respect – she is worthy of it. It does not mean she has to fight back with fists or words, because sometimes you say more with silence. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Help her to understand when to shut her mouth and walk-away. Teach her to be the better person.

    22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words; she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.

    23. Mother her. Being a mother – to her – is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too. Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her. No one can replace or replicate a mother’s love for their children.

    24. Comfort her. Because sometimes you just need your mommy. When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets – no matter how old she is. Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is. These are the moments she will remember you for. And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her…she may just whisper, “I need my mommy.”

    25. Be home. When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you; welcome her. When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news; embrace her. When she is lost or confused, she will search for you; find her. When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit; tell her. She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor – where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile; be home.