Spoon Full of Ava

  • millymill | May 26, 2016

    The Uncontrollable Kid at the Playground

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    On the Slide in our yard.

    On the Slide in our yard.

    All of our children enjoy going to the park to swing, slide, go across the monkey bars, etc. We enjoy watching them play and get excited to see other kids that they have formed friendships with. Sounds like sunshine and rainbows, no?

    No! I personally hate taking my daughter to the park because some kids are jerks and their parents just don’t pay them any mind. I follow my daughter around at the park to make sure she doesn’t fall, or get into something she has no business getting in(bigger slides, monkey bars, etc). She’s only 2 by the way. I also have to watch the kids who’s parents are too busy yapping away and sitting on the bench. I watch those kids to make sure they don’t push anyone, or are mean to anyone ESPECIALLY my kid.

    What made me start watching these kids? That’s what you’re thinking right? Well, a few weeks ago we went to the park and being as though my kid is only 2 she is still very careful and takes her time because I tell her too and I am sure she doesn’t want to fall. Well this little JERK tried shoving her out of the way by/on the slide. So, I had to step in and check him that ONE i see him and  TWO I will not allow him to push her or any other kid. When I went to look and see where or who his mother/father/nanny was I saw no one close enough paying attention to him. He looked at me like I was crazy, I guess they don’t discipline him at home. It’s not his fault because he probably doesn’t know better but his mama better not be mad when other parents are disciplining her child.

    Another incident was a boy running around trying to spit at other kids. He had to be around four and his mama was sitting on the bench playing on her phone. She had no clue what he was doing until I loudly told my daughter to stay away from kids like him because he just doesn’t know better and spitting in disgusting. His mama looked up saw him and went back to her phone. Well, that explains his behavior!

    I will continue to correct these kids one way or another. If you don’t like it then make sure you discipline your children at home. What goes on inside pours out into the streets.

    Now, if for some reason my daughter was acting up, pushing, being mean, spitting, etc and I wasn’t around… I really hope that someone would be there to Check Her and correct her. I totally get it if you have 2-3 kids and are at the park trying to attend to one kid while the are two are going nuts. Well, we have to work as a team and help one another out.

    Don’t like it? Keep your kid at home away from other kids who have sense and are corrected right away by their parents when they aren’t doing what they should be.

    -Annoyed Mama

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  • millymill | March 15, 2016

    Mommy Tantrums

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    My daughter is my world! She has been such a good child since the day we brought her home. Every transition has been so smooth and without a glitch. Now, we are creeping up on her Birthday and I am not going to lie. Everyday has not been easy or smooth but each night I am grateful and we are happy. Let’s just step into one of very few tantrum days.

    This last weekend was rough on our schedule. Saturday we went to my cousin’s house for dinner and to hang out so I made Ava miss her nap. at night she was exhausted to a point where she didn’t even want to try to go to sleep and she is a sleeper! Loves her naps, bedtime, relaxing, etc. She was hysterical, cried about everything, her teddy lost his shoe and she cried. I went to turn the water on and she cried. I was just as tired from the ride, hungry, and just wanted to lay down. When mom and baby are both cranky that right there is a recipe for disaster. Finally I washed her and got her in bed through tears a story and about 10 hugs.

    It was our luck that at 2 am the time changed and we lost an hour of sleep. I am very anal with her schedule so I had to get her up and ready. Up until her nap she was an angel. While she went to the park and played with her dad I tried to move her clothes and all her stuff into her new bedroom. When she walked in her eyes, hand, mind was all over the place. She was excited and wanted to try things on, look around for where things were being put, etc. Everytime I said it was time for her nap she would say “Patom”(means later in Russian). We don’t do much negotiating when it comes to eating and sleeping. I was not feeling that response.

    Just like her I was tired and needed a nap and was hungry but I still had so much left to do on this Sunday that all I could think about was getting her to sleep. I began to get frustrated with her as she cried and was hysterical just because she didn’t know whether she was tired or wanted to play.Not to mention the entire time she was just hugging me and not letting me lay her down. Any other time I can hug her for hours, lay with her and read to her but my mind was else where. I just wanted to get everything done and have sometime to relax but it was just becoming further and further from reality. I ended up yelling at her telling her to lay down and cut the crying out. I rarely yell at her in such a way so I think it scared her and she started crying even worse yet still hugging me.

    At that point I was defeated! I just felt terrible because my house work, her closet and all the other junk wasn’t going anywhere. Yet my soon to be two year old won’t need me forever and the few minutes/hours that she wants me to hug her and play by her rules I should! I just got emotional and cried right along with her while she hugged me and we rocked back and forth on her chair until we were both OK. I talked to her and apologized for yelling and explained to her my frustration and then she agreed to go to sleep.

    I strongly believe parents and kids go through these stages together. For that moment I was having a temper tantrum because time was out of my hands. I was losing control of my schedule for that half an hour and my mind/body just couldn’t handle it. Those moments teach us and mold us into better parents. It’s okay to sit down and cry with your baby sometimes. It’s ok to skip house work to spend some time with people you love.

    Mommies it’s ok! We will feel guilty. We will be exhausted. We will skip story time and that’s OK. Let’s leave it here…tell me about a time you’ve had a time where you both had tempter tantrums at the same time.

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  • millymill | March 11, 2016

    Mom Shaming

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    For the first time in 2 years a mother TRIED to mom-shame me. I can promise you she regrets it now but it doesn’t change how she pissed me off for a slight second.

    My daughter is having some sort of an eczema reaction(in my opinion), we will be going to a dr to get it checked out. Being as though it’s late after speaking to a nurse I posted a photo in a Facebook mommy group and you wouldn’t believe the comments that started rolling in. The photo is literally of my daughter’s arm pit and maybe a 3rd of my nail. The photo is very cropped so it’s literally nothing else that you see.

    Well, a lot of moms were giving their opinions on what it could be. Which is what I asked for and was totally okay with what they thought or had to say. I am very well aware that most moms are not doctors and will not know what it is. I wanted to hear from moms that have seen this on their own children. Ofcourse some of these “opinions” were on another level but it comes with the territory and I just ignored what I didn’t care about.

    Now! Here comes this “fabulous”, “perfect”, “new mom” that says “well obviously this mom is more concerned about getting her nails done than taking care of her child.” Lord have mercy! First and foremost you can’t even tell if my nails are freshly done or have been on for 3 months. (They are a little over a week old) Second, IF I didn’t care for my child I wouldn’t ask what it was and probably just spend my days normally while my daughter had a reaction to something. I started to explain myself to this girl and quickly deleted it because I don’t need to explain myself to anyone.

    We all care for ourselves and our children differently than the next mom. I do not believe I am better than a mom who is in sweats, not working, and doesn’t have her nails done. I don’t think I am better because I still try to take care of myself. I do think we all have choices to prioritize our selves along with our children. I have noticed a lot of moms who have given up taking care of themselves try to talk down to moms that do take care of themselves. Then this girl says “oh great you rather work than care for your own child. I decided to stay home and breastfeed.” Little does she know my daughter was breastfed until she was a year old. All while I kept a full time job and took care of myself and my wifely duties. Who am I to tell her I am better? From doing some snooping her daughter is no more than 6 months old and she’s not married. Then she says “I see how happy your family is! Your profile picture is of just you.” That made me giggle, I pray for girls to find the happiness that I have. I pray girls like her get to experience love from their families like I have. I pray this girl gets out of the negative state of mind as fast as she can.

    I ended up removing the picture because it was 5 am and I refused to go back and forth with a “Facebook Gangster” when I have to be up for work in a few hours. I write this post to all moms! If you care about your child and you care about your parenting then you are already a great parent. We all have our own ways and our own paths. If I walk my path in heels and you walk yours in slippers it doesn’t mean I am better or you are better. It means that we have different parenting styles, goals, plans. It does not change the amount of love and care we have for our kids.

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  • millymill | March 10, 2016

    2 Years Old Already?!?

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    Almost 2 years ago our grasshopper was born. These last 2 years have flown by unbelievably fast. We are expecting baby #2 and our baby is turning 2! This last year I have learned a lot about myself and about life all through our daughter. She has taught me patience, she’s teaching me to go with the flow(the hardest lesson thus far), she’s taught me forgiveness and most importantly how to love unconditionally.

    She, herself is a character. Her personality is out of this world. Her brain is a sponge that takes in every single thing in. She observes everything and everyone. I like to step back and watch her observe people and things. Right now Russian is her 1st language but she understands English very well. Baby girl loves to dance and listen to music and loves family! Which is the most important thing to us. Face-time with her great aunts, great gmom, and cousins is an everyday thing. Books and stories are her favorite out of the million and one toys she has. Bed time stories are a must before her naps and bed time.

    Most bittersweet thing about this birthday is, it’s her last birthday being the only child. I am ecstatic for her to have a sister and celebrate all good things with. I look forward to her sharing her good times with her sister and can’t wait to help them build an unbreakable bond.

    Lastly! When she was born I told myself I will take professional photos pf her every holiday and birthday. Well, we tried out a newborn photo-shoot and we were not impressed. It wasn’t expensive but it was defenitly something I could have done myself. Therefore I started taking photos of her all on my own and in the convenience of our home.

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