CIO Method

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First Days with Our Love

The “cry it out” approach assumes that falling asleep on your own is a skill like any other and that your baby can master this skill if you give him the opportunity. ( Baby Sleep training )

When I had Ava I told myself that I wasn’t going to rock her to sleep, or lay with her until she fell asleep, co-sleep, or even have her sleep in our room in a crib or a bassinet. I love my daughter to death but i love my sleep, my marriage and my sanity too. The reason I wasn’t going to rock her is because growing up my mom would rock my brother for HOURS, no Joke 2-3 hours sometimes. Also I have heard or parents staying and holding their child’s hand until they fall asleep and anytime they would try to walk away the kid would wake up. Hearing these stories and knowing all of this gave me the heebie jeebies!

I have a full time job, a home to care for, a husband to attend to, and a beautiful baby girl to care for. Get this. All that and only 24 hours to do everything. My entire pregnancy I knew I had to have a plan in place just like I do with everything else.


Once she was born and I got adjusted(took 3 days) I put a schedule into full force. I was waking her up every 3 hours to feed and there were times she would cry before bed/naps and I knew she was clean, fed, and good to go to sleep. I never let her cry longer than 10 minutes. By the time the crying started I was familiar with her cries which made it really easy. Anytime she would cry over 10 minutes I would go in give her a kiss say to her “Mama loves you, Papa loves you, Everyone loves you now close your eyes and relax.” Sometimes I would just put her back in the crib and leave and others I’d rub her belly for a minute or so and then walk out. After that she would whine for a few minutes(usually not over 5) and fall asleep. This took about a week and since then she has been on a pretty solid schedule. I did this with naps and night time sleep. She has also been sleeping through the night since she was 2 months old.


Ava is now 11 months old and sometimes will scream and holler when I walk out of the room. When/if I come back in the room she starts cracking up. Which tells me she is tired but wants me to keep on playing with her. On days like that I walk in play with her for a few minutes, give her a kiss, tell her we love her and walk out. When I walk out she cries for maybe 2 minutes and flops right down and goes to sleep.

Now, a lot of people view the CIO method as torture, some even say it will break the trust between the child and parent. Those parents think that by leaving them the child will learn to self cope so they worry that their kid won’t need them or trust them. CIO method is just like teaching your child to crawl, walk, eat, or even different words. It is a way of doing something, it is a good thing for you and your baby. He/she will get more rest and so will you. Your kid will know he/she can trust you as they grow, as you catch them from falling, as you kiss their boo boos, as you protect them, and the list goes on and on! CIO will not make your child angry in the long run because they will wake up happy as ever.

I don’t believe that this method is for everyone but I do believe that it should be an option for everyone. For example a stay at home mom may prefer to rock her baby, a single mom might love co-sleeping, and a working mom may love the CIO method because all these things and options may match our lives differently.

I want to hear about your babies and your schedule…sleeping methods…feedings…experiences…etc. Weigh in below!

Happy Working Mama. <3

1 Comment

  1. Julie (xfallenmoon)

    March 5, 2015 at 3:36 am

    I found a way to comment! Yay! You should really have a comment link on the home page. Just FYI. Makes it easier for people to comment. 🙂

    To be honest, I never even thought about the whole cry it out thing. I seriously just went with it without asking myself too many questions.

    For both of my babies, at night, they were in their own bed right from day 1. Mainly because I was so tired I was afraid I would roll over them and choke them. During the day though, I napped with them on my chest, skin to skin. I never really had any problem with them crying a lot. I guess they just got used to being by themselves in their own bed.

    They only cried when they were sick, or when they started realizing that I was leaving (around 8-9 months) at which point I would come in, comfort them, and the leave, then repeat, until they fell asleep. They caught on pretty fast that I wasn’t leaving forever.

    It’s hard to decide what to do in any situation and I think it’s good just to go with your gut feeling regardless of what others think.

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