Over the years I have developed many self care routines. These habits help me stay grounded and really take care of me. Don’t get me wrong I still battle between what’s more important. Is it taking care of my kids from sun up to sun down? Making sure the house is always in order? Cooking dinner for my husband every night? Or is it okay for me to take an hour or two to myself each day? Last four to five years have taught me not only is it important but necessary for me to have self care routines set in place. Am I able to take that hour or two every day? Nope, and it will usually show at the end of the day. I get more irritable, cranky, just over all mentally and physically drained. Therefore I try my best to take the time I need, when I need it because if I stay on top of it, it gives me the tools I need to handle the not so great days/times.
There are so many layers of Self Care. The longer I practice it the more I discover about myself. It allows me to be transparent with myself(even if I don’t want to admit somethings). It has given me a peak at how/when I need to listen to my mind or my body.
I know it’s so easy to just put yourself to the side. “I’ll get to it tomorrow”, “I’ll start next week when everything is back to normal”, “Maybe when the kids go down, I’ll attempt to take care of me”. No, no and no! Those are all excuses, guilt and sacrifice. You are worth it! You deserve that time to care for you. You need to be taken care of in a specific way, in order to be able to take care of all things/people around you. In the beginning it may come off selfish to those that never take that time. It may come off “odd” but it doesn’t really matter what it looks like because just like you have to spend QT with your SO, your family, your kids, etc you have to spend QT with yourself. You maybe surprised to meet this new person that you never really knew existed. Give it a go.
My favorite and go to when I have a bit of time and am really in need of some clarity. I like to meditate in the morning before the day gets started. It sets such a healthy and fresh start to my day. Meditation also helps keep a healthy mind and sort through your thoughts. I turned to meditation a few years ago when I was struggling with really bad anxiety and it’s taught me so much about myself, my body, my mind. It’s amazing. In the beginning it’s hard to get into but start 5 minutes at a time and you can always turn on “guided meditation” on youtube to help.
2. Cook your favorite Meal.
This is actually tough for me when everyone is home. My husband doesn’t always eat what i’d like (cheese, mushrooms, shrimp, etc). Kids are kids and stick to their usual stuff unless they feel like picking at my food. Yet, there are days where I will cook 3 different meals. Days like that I usually feed everyone, get the kids to bed and make my meal in a clean, quiet kitchen. I’ll light a candle, pour myself something to drink and enjoy a good meal.
There’s something so therapeutic about getting your thoughts on paper. Where you can physically see your thoughts, confusion, craziness and then just shut the book and go to sleep. LOL No but seriously, I love to go back and read my journal entries. It shows so much growth and the best thing is you don’t even realize you’re growing until you read through it.
Such a simple thing but makes such a difference. I usually like to go down the list of all things I am grateful for when I am washing the dishes. Sometimes I catch myself smiling as I am doing it and it just feels so refreshing. Anytime something is off I go right to my list of things to be grateful for because it keeps me lifted and doesn’t allow my mind to bring me down.
5. Lifting your Vibrations
Blast a song or 2. Sing your heart out. Take a walk outdoors on a sunny day. There are so many ways and it’s different for everyone but basically learn to lift your own spirit on the daily. Gospel songs or even some sermons will lift your vibrations in a heart beat. Your energy instantly changes.
6. Pamper Yourself
I enjoy taking a long shower once the kids are down for a nap. I’ll usually apply a hair mask early in the morning, wrap it and just let it do it’s thing until I shower. Quick face mask once they’re down. Then I turn on some music or meditate in a long hot shower.
When I have the day I like to go get a mani & pedi, foot massage and just take my time relaxing away from home. (Usually every other Sunday)
7. Coffee & TV
Most comforting and effortless thing. Catching up on my shows or putting on a movie and just getting comfortable on the couch while the house is silent. Believe it or not this is the one self care routine I am able to practice on the daily. That one hour no one and nothing else exists. Your mind focuses on the show/movie and nothing else.
A lot of people think of this as I job. How do i know? I was one of them. Until I found the right plants for me. They now make me so happy and fulfilled. I like to see that I am taking good care of them and really raising these little plants lol. Not to mention they just look so pretty around the house. Oh, not to mention they cleanse the air in your home.
I love to take a good nap. Unfortunately I don’t get to do this as often as I’d like but it’s literally a reset button.
10. Read a Book
Not a business book, not a self care book, but a book that you will truly enjoy. I am guilty of feeling like I have to use ALL of my free time to grow my business, my mind, life, etc. It’s okay to escape for a bit and read something you enjoy.
Self Care isn’t a tool to get you over a hump. It isn’t something you do between breakups or tough times. This is a tool to help you every single day of your life. Once you make Self Care a priority so many things will fall into place. Priorities, Passions, Relationships, etc. Things become clear, your confidence gets built up and you become this Powerful Being.
What are your favorite Self Care Routines?